Month: January 2019

Physical and mental health after abortion

Physical and mental health after abortion

Yesterday the New York Senate passed legislation allowing  abortions to be performed up to birth for basically any reason.

This bill also allows non doctors to perform abortions, and removes many regulations to keep them safe.

This is not another religion based article to discuss this controversial issue.If you’ve been following me for a while then you know I rarely use religion as my base to support or reject a behavior, I rather use science and instinctive human behavior.  There are enough physical and emotional truths on this particular issue that are conveniently never discussed for me to make my case against the “abortion on demand” movement.

All animal species share one basic instinct: survival.

Humans, the so-called intelligent ones with opposable thumbs,  have decided to use their brains to defy their most powerful instinct by justifying the killing of their offspring on social economic issues.  A mother is built with the ability to sacrifice herself, as well as kill others to protect her child. It’s an instinct, it requires no faith, no religion.  Every species on earth share that instinct!  No other animal, except humans, voluntarily abort their perfectly formed offspring.

Personally, I don’t think that this human behavior is any different from killing another human being for greed, vengeance, or power.  Something that only humans do also.  It looks like the more we “evolve” the less we are in sync with nature and the other species.

But let’s talk about the physical and emotional consequences of doing something that our bodies are not meant to be doing, something that every woman on earth should be aware of,  but thanks to groups who profit from our despicable self-destructive behavior is never talked about.

Physical consequences of abortion:

  • Legal abortion is reported as the fifth leading cause of maternal death in the US
  • Infection or sepsis
  • Damage to the cervix
  • Scarring of the uterine lining
  • Perforation of the uterus
  • Damage to other organs
  • 30% increase in risk of breast cancer

The older the fetus, the higher the risks.

Psychological consequences of abortion:

  • Depression, guilt, anger, anxiety
  • Women who have an abortion are 3.4 times more likely to commit suicide
  • 25% of women who have an abortion require psychotropic drugs afterwards
  • 19% of post-abortion women suffer from PTSD
  • Thirty to fifty percent of women who have had abortions report experiencing sexual dysfunctions, of both short and long duration, beginning immediately after their abortion. These problems may include one or more of the following: loss of pleasure from intercourse, increased pain, an aversion to sex and/or males in general, or the development of a promiscuous lifestyle.
  • Post-abortion stress is linked with increased cigarette smoking
  • A recent study, available at, found that of the women surveyed, those who aborted their first pregnancy were 3.9 times more likely to engage in subsequent drug or alcohol abuse than those who have never had an abortion.
  • Women who abort often have trouble bonding with the children of future pregnancies and have a higher chance of eventually abusing them.

Interestingly, while researching for this article, I’ve found out that most of the studies on post-abortion health issues were made in Finland, Sweden and Canada.  One report from an US source even mentioned that due to the political nature of abortion in this country, very little study has been conducted on its health ramifications.

One could say that some very wealthy organizations don’t want you to know the damage you’re doing to your body and your psyche by having an abortion, why would they? Abortion is a multi million dollar industry!

What still boggles me is how they were able to manipulate women’s minds enough to make them go against their instinct of protecting their offspring, that’s some seriously strong mind control right there!

And since we’re talking in terms of science and logic here, why not mention that the people investing heavily in the abortion industry have also managed to go unquestioned as to why they are not putting any effort into preventing pregnancy instead of promoting a procedure that hurts women.

If the abortion proponents see pregnancy as a disease, a cancer that needs to be removed, wouldn’t it make more sense to prevent it (since unlike a real disease, it’s 100% preventable other than in rape cases) than to submit women to an unnecessary and possibly damaging procedure?

You don’t need religion to see the paradox of this abortion on demand movement disguised as a woman’s rights issue, nature alone has all the answers any reasonable and non brainwashed woman needs to see the truth.

If you want to help women see how they are being manipulated by a very profitable industry, put your religious beliefs aside for a minute and use facts.  No emotion, no outrage, no Bible quotes, just scientific facts that even a hard-core atheist can’t dispute.

Why not push for over the counter, $5 a box birth control pills like in so many other countries? And put all those profitable abortion clinics out of business? No way!

Isn’t it ironic that the women in this country who claim to hate the top 1% for their greed, are actually voluntarily marching to promote an industry who is part of the 1%? An industry that makes their money from convincing women to reject their physical ability to do the one thing men can’t … because – equality! I must say I’m impressed with this  industry’s ability to convince millions of women, many who are very well educated and smart, to act completely based on a fabricated emotion of self power that defies logic and nature.

We are living in a time of great divide in our country because we have accepted our places in the many boxes created for us, we were not born in those boxes, we’ve entered them voluntarily!  If you can’t debate an issue using logic, science, statistics, because you feel your faith needs to be at the front of every discussion, you are no help at all to those who need the most!

Please share this article with all the women you know, because empowering women is not teaching them to kill their offspring so a corporation can profit, but showing them that nature has selected them as the key between survival or extinction!

Women are magnificent creatures, chosen to give life,  LIFE IS OUR POWER!


Is the masculine man on the verge of extinction?

Is the masculine man on the verge of extinction?

Is sociology even a thing anymore? It used to be one of my favorite subjects to read, I’ve always found the domino effect in human behavior fascinating.  Probably the reason why sometimes is hard for me to write about a behavior subject because I can visualize all the many factors contributing to it, but don’t know how to connect them in a succinct way.  But this is too important to dismiss, so I’m going to try.

We have by far the least “masculine” society since our existence as a species, yet someone felt the need to start a campaign against “toxic masculinity” like if we were plagued with some infectious disease that reached pandemic levels! How did we get to the point where the slightest sign of typical male behavior is considered toxic?  There are several contributing factors, but let’s cover the most easily identified.

We’ve had an explosion of psychiatry drugs being prescribed to children in the 80’s which led to an alarming number of over a million children under the age of 6 being prescribed behavior altering substances today.  Coincidentally,  the number of households in America without a father went from 11% in the 60’s to 25% as we’ve entered the 21st century.  And not so coincidentally,  the feminist movement started in the 1960’s raising the number of divorces and children born out-of-wedlock.

We’ve also seen an increase in mass shootings, mostly caused by individuals born in the 80’s (yes, I have researched this) with a history of psychiatry drugs and single parent household.

Our diet has changed considerably, most of what we eat is treated to last longer than it should or injected with hormones.  I’m not a scientist, but logic tells me that our bodies were not made for this kind of diet and there are consequences to the change in our feeding habits.

Another interesting change in behavior that most tend to see as just the result of massive brainwashing is this instinct challenging gender neutral celebration; it makes absolutely no sense to those who are from a generation where you were either straight or gay but you were still able to distinguish gender because…. well, it’s biology!

Now let’s look at some statistics released by the Department of Justice regarding households without a father:

Suicide: 63 percent of youth suicides
Runaways: 90 percent of all homeless and runaway youths
Behavioral Disorders: 85 percent of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders
High School Dropouts: 71 percent of all high school dropouts
Juvenile Detention Rates: 70 percent of juveniles in state-operated institutions
Substance Abuse: 75 percent of adolescent patients in substance abuse centers
Aggression: 75 percent of rapists motivated by displaced anger

Read the last one again!!! 75% of rapists had no father figure! This one alone should have feminists changing their tune.

Shall we connect the dots?

Feminist movement starts in the 60’s – households without a father goes from 11% to 25% – psychiatric drugs emerge to treat children who are misbehaving due to lack of proper parenting but diagnosed with mental disorders, and these drugs change the chemicals in their brain – food also containing chemicals that alter brain activity – males start changing physically also, more delicate, more emotional – gender confusion.

We have become the only species on earth that has systematically  worked to eliminate the male influence and the characteristics necessary for the species to survive.

The typical and natural male with all of its characteristics has become so rare that those traits are now seen as toxic, offensive.  It’s like our society is being run by Amazons! At the rate we’re going 100 years from now real men will be on display at science shows as an endengered species.

Statistics don’t lie! They are telling us a story, and that story should have us all concerned…look at the numbers above again, we need men helping to raise our children, real men.

We are here today because the Vikings, the Greeks, the Romans, and all of our ancestors celebrated the masculinity that gave us warriors without forgetting the strength that comes from a feminine woman who gives them life.

Ironically, the same women who accuse men of toxic masculinity just fled to movie theaters to drool over “Aquaman” after they’ve successfully castrated the real men in their lives.  Which proves that we can’t escape our animal makeup, and by trying to we’ve completely upset the balance that keeps the engine working properly.

Let me make it clear that I’m a strong, independent woman with no husband, and proud of my achievements.  Unfortunately,  if I’m going to be honest, I’ll have to say that the only reason why I don’t have a partner in life is exactly because most my male counterparts have become so fragile that someone like me is intimidating, while others have no clue how to act anymore.  They’ve lost the ability to even gauge how assertive they should be in fear of being accused of harassment.

As a woman I understand the origin of the feminist movement, but I despise what it has turned into and how it has completely destroyed the male/female balance necessary for our species to survive… and THAT is the only thing toxic I see here!

Dear feminists…rising by putting others down is for the weak, therefore you are failing to prove you’re equal.

Maybe some brave men out there could start a “masculinity movement”, because our  problem is definitely not excessive masculinity but the absence of it.








The obsession with being first – Identity politics

The obsession with being first – Identity politics

I was raised by a very wise man who never considered my gender, religious beliefs, or sexual orientation when teaching me how to succeed in life.

I remember an analogy used by my father when I was a teenager, he told me that what people could see outside (my appearance) was like a  business card; that was the first thing people saw and a good presentation was important, but a well structured company with something to offer had to follow or the business could not be sustained.

I was taught that who I was, my qualities, achievements, knowledge, character and goals, way surpassed how I looked or if I was married, single, straight, gay, religious or an atheist when it comes to professional development.  Not for a moment in my professional life have I ever worried that my success or failure could be linked to anything other than my own effort to be the best I could be at what I do.

I’ve worked in fields that are predominantly male oriented and can honestly say that I’ve achieved more than most men I know, because I wasn’t competing, I was simply being the best I could be … for me.

Now that you know who I am, it will be a little easier to explain why I have such a problem with today’s trend of making everything about gender, sexual orientation, skin color, or religious beliefs.

As we watch the new members of Congress and Senate being confirmed this week, headlines once again focus on the “firsts” as if they were an actual achievement, really?

I would certainly be embarrassed if my claim to fame if elected as a representative of the people was my sexual orientation or my religion, yet, that seems to be more important these days than one’s qualifications!

What makes one’s sexual orientation, skin color,  or faith so spectacular?

If you truly want people to be accepted for who they are without prejudice, then why make their non skilled qualities the center of the attention? How about highlighting their achievements instead?  The sad outcome of the obsession with identity politics is that it does the exact opposite of what it claims to desire; it labels people and creates more prejudice instead of eliminating it.

So now, according to headlines, we Americans are very lucky to have the “First bisexual congresswoman ever elected”, the “First Muslim woman in congress”, the “First woman to wear a hijab in congress” …  aren’t we special?  I’m sure that those “qualities” will make them better representatives of the people, right?

This obsession with firsts based on qualities that don’t require personal growth is sending a very bad message to the younger generation! You don’t have to work at being the best at anything anymore, just find a label, stick it to your forehead and voila, you’re special!

I personally couldn’t care less about your gender, your sexual orientation, skin color,  or religion! So please, don’t force me to see you only for those qualities!

And if we must be obsessed with firsts….

How about we focus on being first on qualities that actually require an effort to develop?

I want people elected into office to represent me that have been blind to their gender, skin color, sexual orientation or religion as much as I have, people who have worked to develop skills to make them deserving  of the position they occupy.

And for the record… bragging about electing someone for their label doesn’t make you special for being so open-minded and accepting, it just makes you the most prejudiced of them all because all you could see was the label.

How I wish I could sit down with Dr. Martin Luther King right now and have a long conversation around his famous quote:

“I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judge by the color of their skin but the content of their character”

Somehow I have a feeling that Dr. King would not be happy with our obsession with “firsts” based on anything BUT character.



Back to basics -planting seeds

Back to basics -planting seeds

I believe that we are all born with an instinctive knowledge of right and wrong and a natural sense of self-preservation.
A child knows when he/she is doing something wrong the first time they do it, it’s your reaction that will either confirm or deny their instinct, therefore forming their ethical and moral standards.
Thus, being a good or bad person is just a matter of how your surroundings react to your natural instincts.
Self preservation works exactly the same way and it is sometimes challenged by your instinct of being a good person.
If there weren’t so many voices telling us what is good and bad, and what we should fear or disregard in terms of survival, we would simply instinctively choose what makes sense.
If you need someone, a community leader, a religious preacher, a politician, to tell you what is right or wrong, you have lost the connection with your inner instincts and have become a tool to their vanity and greed.
Independent thinking is so rare these days that people are gravitating towards extremes on every direction.
You can choose to be kind but not become a victim.
You can choose to share with the less fortunate without being taken advantage of.
You can choose to love everyone for who they are without changing who you are.
You can choose to help strangers but keep your instinct of self-preservation and know when a stranger might be a threat.
It is not an all or nothing deal!
When you live in a society where people start talking in absolutes, some need to be brave enough to risk criticism and remind us all to reconnect with our natural instincts.
Some of you will not like my posts this year, but I’m not here to be liked or admired, I’m here to make a difference.
It’s time to plant seeds.